Monday, September 1, 2008

Paydays, Promotions and Praises




As a mother, I have found that unlike my husband, I do not recieve the wordly definition of paydays, promotions and prasies. I Never get paid, the only promotions I have recieved is going from one kid to two, and than again from two kids to three...if that counts as a promotion. The praise I get is usually self-recognition. When I really need to feel appreciated, I will hint to James what a great mom I am and he usually agrees. Praise enough...I guess. This weekend I have found another aspect that seperates motherhood from the workforce. Sickdays. This weekend I have felt incredibly worn out, tired, and have had a horrible sore throat. I really think I might have mono. I have been battling this thing for a couple months now and it never seems to go away. However, no matter how cruddy I feel, I am never able to take a day off to recover. Not only am I not able to take a sick day, I find myself taking 5 kids all by myself on a nature walk through the woods, play in a stream for two hours, watch my three year old catch his first frog, empty out a similac container and help him make a "natural habitat" for our new found froggy friend so that we can take it home and show daddy, feed kids three meals a day plus snacks, put kids to bed and wake with them in the middle of the night, and everything else that all mothers already know. Why can't I take a "sick day."? It is a very interesting thought. I paged James yesterday and told him how sick I was and asked if he could get off early. I knew he wouldn't be able to, but I thought I would throw it out there. I thought about calling a babysitter. However, I would have to put all three kids in the car, pick her up, and of course, pay her. I didn't have the energy. Here's the deal. Motherhood is not a job. It is a lifestyle. It cannot qualify as a job becasue I cannot quit, I cannot take a day off, I do not get paid, I cannot expect promotions or praise. I will never be able to kick my feet up on the golf course enjoying a relaxing retirement. I will never be able to go shopping without thinking first, what my kids need. This is motherhood. Perhaps, for some, this may not seem like any way to live. For me, it's the only way. I couldn't imagine missing my three year old catch his first frog, my three month old smiling with the first bow that I have ever made in my life, and seeing my five year old imagine up mud pies and imaginary adventures in the midst of good freinds. Yes, I would like a sick day. Perhaps today. But I must be truthful and answer this question. Would I take it? I am not sure. I never want to miss a moment. So yes, I could complain that motherhood is hard, that there are no breaks, time-offs or prasie. As for the pay-days. I still can't afford new dining room chairs, but for some reason, I think that I would rather be making natural habitats for frogs.

6 comments:

suds2004 said...

Jessie,
I just happened to come across your blog tonight and I am so glad I did. I am sitting here on my couch crying, what a beautiful post. This is seriously how I feel and just what I needed tonight. I am so glad you are doing well. Little Naomi is beautiful!

Rindee

lynnette orme said...

The bow is perfect. It is so cute--keep making them. She is adorable. The boys look healthy and happy. Do you need me to come back--I hope not, but you do need to get to a DR. Oh, I thought you lived with one--can't he write a amoxicillin perscp. for you. If not, dad will call one in--this is ridiculous. I love you. Mom

Liz said...

Yeah Jess listen to Netty!! Isn't that one of the perks of living with a Dr???? I hope you get feeling better. I love reading your blog at the end of the day-you are a good dose of therapy for me. Love ya! Omer

Liz said...

jess...what a darling bow and perfect pictures! i love what you wrote because it puts in words what i always think, but don't express! hope you get some drugs FAST!

Jennifer said...

Hey girl! How is William doing in school and how are you doing with him gone? How about Jake? Has he started preschool yet? Javien and Kassius start tomorrow and although I am sad that Kash is actually old enough to go I'm a TINY bit excited to just hang out with my Tytus for a moment. I am always worried about my boys when they are gone, but hopefully they will have a good time and forget I am gone, not likely with Javien, but at least Kash will LOVE going.

Sarah C said...

I read this blog when you posted it. I read it again tonight. I started crying. I totally needed to read it tonight. I love reading your blog. It helps me see that I am not the only one that feels the way I do. It helps validate my frustrations. I appreciate your perspective on being a mom. When I read this post and the one you posted about the doctor's appointment, I smiled and I cried. When you are doing through the experience it is really hard. I am grateful I am able to see it through someone else's eyes. Thanks for being a great example to me.